Thursday, May 1, 2025

Share Your Shelf-April

Hello friends and hello May. Since the first day of the month is also the first Thursday of the month, it's time to Share Our Shelves. This link up is hosted by Tanya-Marilyn-Joanne-and Jenn. Hop over to add your books or see what others have been reading lately. 

I didn't read as much in April as I normally do. There was a lot of nighttime blogging in April in an effort to keep up with the A-Z Blog Challenge, plus there was just a lot going on here. Which I know I say every month, but April was extra and I had less time to relax with a book. 

I read three books and one was almost 700 pages, so maybe that should count double? Here's what I read in April-


 
1. Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo


Julia Ames is a woman in her late 50's living a seemingly comfortable life with her husband Mark and their two grown children. Her son unexpectedly announces he is going to marry and then quickly become a father, and her daughter is headed to college. Julia grapples with all the things women her age grapple with-parenting, relationships, regret, purpose. 

Julia's everyday ordinary is interrupted one day by a chance encounter with an old friend, an older woman named Helen Russo. This encounter forces Julia to confront some unresolved issues from her past and the story proceeds from there.  The timeline jumps around some (but it works) from present day to the early married years, to raising children and even back to Julia's own childhood. As a wife and mother she struggles to communicate with the people she loves including her husband, her children, and especially her mother. There are hints of childhood trauma which Julia acknowledges have had a lasting impact and lots of dysfunction in that particular relationship. 

I thought the book was just okay. In my opinion it needed editing and I didn't love the main character, which of course is going to make me love the book less. Claire Lombardo is an excellent writer but this one felt long given the story told. There was also a sense of gloominess to the story that I didn't care for. I gave it three stars. 

Saving CeeCee Honeycutt by Beth Hoffman


Recently I went through my Goodreads list of 'want-to-reads' and deleted a few titles that no longer held any appeal. I also found a few that have been on the list for several years, that I never got around to reading. I decided to try and read one of these 'oldies' (not classic old, just been on my list a long time old) each month. Saving CeeCee Honeycutt has been on my list since 2012. I didn't even realize I'd been on Goodreads that long. 

This is the tender story of 12-year old CeeCee Honeycutt, who has grown up in Ohio caring for her psychotic mother. Her dad is basically absentee and checked out. In the aftermath of a tragic event CeeCee's great aunt Tootie arrives from Savannah to take charge of CeeCee, and a new life begins for the young girl. 

This is a simple, but poignant tale, uncomplicated yet moving. There's no big buildup to something you didn't see coming, but it is sweetly told, well written, and just an enjoyable read overall. I gave it four stars.


The Woman In White by Wilkie Collins 


As I mentioned last month, I'm trying to read at least one classic novel each month this year, and The Woman In White was the one I chose for April.  A blog friend (Maria at Memorable Moments and Modest Missives) reminded me of this book in a message she sent me, and I hadn't thought about the novel in years. So glad to have rediscovered this gem...thank you Maria! 

The Woman In White, written in the mid-1800's, is one of the earliest examples of detective fiction, and  incorporates many Gothic elements like mystery, suspense, and deep dark secrets. The story holds up very well some 160+ years later. I've said this same thing each month about whatever classic it is I happen to have read, but the language in these novels is exquisite. 

Now for the plot...Walter Hartright, a young art teacher living in London, comes across a woman late one evening, dressed all in white, and in a state of distress. He learns later she has escaped from an asylum. Walter is headed to Cumberland to work as the drawing instructor for two young ladies at Limmeridge House, and when he shares this bit of news with the mystery woman he's surprised to learn she knows the house and speaks very highly of the deceased Mrs. Fairlee, who was the wife of the former owner.

Current residents of Limmeridge House are Frederick Fairlie, the quirky and reclusive uncle of Laura Fairlee. Laura and her devoted half-sister Marian Holcombe, also reside at Limmeridge House. 

Hartright finds that Laura bears an astonishing resemblance to the woman in white, whose name it turns out is Anne Catherick. As the story progresses we learn Anne had lived for a time in Cumberland as a child and was devoted to Laura's mother (Mrs. Fairlee), who first dressed her in white.

Walter's relationship with Laura, the family's complicated history, and the actions of the mysterious Sir Percival Glyde and his friend Count Fosco lead to a series of revelations and events that challenge sanity, identity, and the power of the human spirit. 

The mystery of the woman in white unfolds at a pace I absolutely loved. In pieces, but pieces big enough to keep you wanting more of this almost 700 page novel. Five stars for me. 

Have you read anything great this month? If so please share. Happy May everyone! 

Wednesday, April 30, 2025

Zeroing In On The Hodgepodge

Hitting Volume 600 of The Wednesday Hodgepodge today on this last day in the month of April. Thank you for adding your thoughts, your creativity, and your bright ideas to this little link up each week. I've been inspired, entertained, and encouraged by your words.  

If you've answered today's questions add your link at the end of my post, then leave a comment for the blogger before you. If you're here for the final A-Z post in this year's challenge you'll find that in my random thought at the end of the Hodgepodge. Here we go-

From this Side of the Pond
1. My very first edition of The Wednesday Hodgepodge was published on November 10, 2010 (linked here if you're curious). Tell us something about your life from that era. 

When I hear someone say 2010 it doesn't sound like all that long ago. Then I think about all the life lived since then and it feels like forever. Is fifteen years a long time? 

I don't know why some of these pics wouldn't cooperate in size, but fifteen years in and I'm still technology challenged. 

2010... 
I had short hair-


...one daughter still in college in South Carolina and one recent (May) college graduate, also living and working in South Carolina. 



Hubs and I were living in the NJ suburbs, a rural corner of the state that was beautiful, expensive, full of wildlife, and a short car ride away from Manhattan. 


We had a Gordon Setter who would have been 8 years old then, and we did lots of hikes in the nearby countryside with her.  Quite a few city walks too. 


Hubs was traveling the globe and I was managing the home front. I did some volunteering, a lot of road trips to both South Carolina (my girls) and South Jersey (my family), and took some fun trips with the hubs too. I learned to blog. I participated in a Women's Bible Study, a book club, a women's club, and Bunco. 

And I went to boot camp at 6 AM five days a week. We had a lot of snow. 


2. What's a song you love that relates to time in some way? 

There are quite a few songs that came to mind when I sat and thought about this, but I feel like I have to say Time In A Bottle by Jim Croce because its perfect. So poignant, so poetic, and so beautifully written. It's timeless. Such a talented songwriter who sadly died young. 

3. May is nearly upon us. When did you last need to yell 'MAY DAY-MAY DAY!!'? 

I haven't had any near disasters that required actual shouting, but I've definitely asked for help recently. This is where I am right now...the most recent call for help was asking hubs to see if he could get the lego hair off a lego head because my grandson wanted to put a helmet on the figure instead. 

These lego heads are the size of my fingernail, maybe smaller, and it was not budging. Hubs had to get some little tool out to make it happen but he succeeded. Whew. 

If you don't know what I'm talking about don't let it keep you up at night lol. 

4. How do you feel about food trucks? Is this a dining experience you enjoy?  Do you have a favorite What's something you've ordered from a food truck? 

I think this might be an unpopular opinion but I'm not a huge fan. I like a table when I eat. I don't care if the food is from a taco truck as long as there's a seat nearby. 

There are a couple of Mexican 'restaurants' here that started as food trucks but have expanded so that they feel more like very casual restaurants now. Still operating out of their truck but the truck stays parked and the owners have added covered patios with tables, along with restrooms and landscaping. One of these 'trucks' we particularly enjoy and visit often. 

5. We're bidding farewell to April...what are three adjectives you might use to describe the month you're leaving behind. 

Busy, yellow, hopeful. 

6. Insert your own random thought here. 

It's the end of the alphabet today in the April A-Z Blog Challenge. I've enjoyed the push to write and my theme has allowed me to reflect on some of the life lessons I've learned. Today's post will likely not be one that lands in deep water because Z? Hmmm...

#AtoZChallenge 2025 letter Z

Z is for Zigzag

'one of a series of short sharp turns, angles, or alterations in a course'

Like all the years of A-Z-ing here on the blog I'm going to keep this last letter pretty simple. Everyone's happy to be at the finish line and no heavy lifting is needed. Just wrap it up. Today's Hodgepodge actually inspired me to look back at my blog, and looking back at my blog means looking back at my life. 

It's been much more of a zig zag than a straight line. Writing about it is like that too. 

When I started blogging I wrote primarily about life in England and our transition back to the US after several years of living away. There were kids in college, a husband traveling, and a new house in a new town. There was figuring out life in an almost empty nest, navigating family grief, and a lot of praying for the young adults we had raised. 

As time moved forward we celebrated graduations, weddings, retirement, and a new home build in yet another new town. The married kids moved too, started families of their own, and made us grandparents which is a whole 'nother zig in the zag of life. One of the best I'm going to say. 

I got older too. I'm not the mom of college kids I was when I started writing here and I'm glad my blog has come along for the ride. It's a tangible reminder of all the life we've lived and how God has gone before us to every new city, neighborhood, house and circumstance. He's walked beside us as we've zig zagged through decades of marriage, parenting, moving, adjusting, changing, growing and living. 

In the missteps and on the mountaintops He's been there. 
He is faithful. 

'Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, 
for he who promised is faithful.' Hebrews 10:23 



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Tuesday, April 29, 2025

The A-Z Yadda Yadda Yadda...

Hanging on by my fingernails but I can see the finish line...  

#AtoZChallenge 2025 letter Y

Y is for Yesteryear 

'time gone by'

Two days left in the challenge and I've reached the point where I'm literally surveying my family for a word. I even pressed the 5-year old who suggested 'you' and 'yellow', which just might be my words because it's 9:15 PM and I got nothin. 

My daughter sang out yodelayheehoo and we all laughed. I'm not saying no to that one either. 

Actually yodelayheehoo makes me think of The Sound of Music and how my girls loved to sing along, how we all loved to sing along, and how my hubs can (and occasionally will) bust out the line, 'There's a family in Salzburg' sounding exactly like Mother Superior. How it makes us all laugh and is just one of those family things that nobody but your own family gets or finds funny.  

There's a name for this and it's called familects. It just means one family's way of speaking, and can be anything from expressions to nicknames to stories told. Experts say familects not only help forge connections within a family, but they also have the power to draw us back together over and over again. 

Every family has their thing. Their own language and shared humor. It's one of my favorite things actually, that invisible thread that pulls us all in tight when a funny (to us) word or phrase is used, or a reference is made to some nearly forgotten long ago moment in time. 

The way something small or silly or sentimental reminds us we belong to each other. 


'There's a family in Salzburg...'

Monday, April 28, 2025

Monday's X Factor

Normally Monday blogging means a weekend recap, but we're riding the tail winds of the A-Z Blog Challenge this week so I'm going to do a bit of both here today. It's a little bit long but that's pretty much how I roll. 

We had a fairly quiet weekend. I guess? Towards the end of last week this happened-

They have been begging to get in the water since they arrived mid-January, and this week we finally said yes. It was a warm (relatively speaking) sunny day with lake temps a balmy 70 degrees, but kids do not care. 

I asked hubs if he was going to put on his swim suit and he said no. If they needed help he'd jump in in his clothes. Our lake will be 80 by sometime in May so we'll wait thank you very much. It will be like bath water as the days get longer. 

This was a short swim, but a happy one. Summer is almost here-whoohoo! 


And now for the weekend recap with Holly (Pink Lady Blog) and Sarah (Sunshine and Books)-

Friday the 'kids' closed on their new home. So exciting! I had the grands that morning while mom and dad went to sign papers and make it all official. Hubs went too because he was their realtor. My daughter had arranged to have the upstairs carpet cleaned right after the closing (the lower level has wood floors), so she and the hubs (mine, not hers-hers had to get back to work) went straight to the house and I brought the kids over right after. 

They had so much fun exploring every nook and cranny and running around the backyard. Their furniture has been in storage since before they moved to England and won't be delivered until later this week, but they're on the home stretch now.

My son-in-law's dad brought his truck to our house so we could load up a sofa the kids are taking. They wanted it cleaned along with the rugs, and of course by 'we' I mean I held the door and hubs and my daughter's father-in-law did the heavy lifting.  My son-in-law was conveniently back at work by this time lol. I had all the kids in my daughter's van, plus two additional chairs they're also taking from us.

Nothing about moving is easy. 

We dropped the furniture then hubs had to drop off some of the close paperwork at his office. Before he left we took the kids to Firehouse Subs for lunch and to get them out of the empty house and away from the carpet cleaning. 

The boys had baseball that evening followed by a movie night at their church so once my son-in-law was home he managed that. Daughter1 and little Miss stayed here for bath and bedtime and hubs and I took ourselves to our favorite wine bar to relax. Whew. We ordered a charcuterie for dinner and ran into some friends there which is always fun. 

No pictures of any of it but that's just how the weekend went. 

Saturday hubs was 'working' the boat show. He and another realtor had a booth at the local show so that was his day. The kids were at baseball because every day is baseball, then my son-in-law's sister, along with his parents, went to see the new house. His dad had seen it that morning when he was moving the couch, but his mom hadn't been inside. They all went back to the in-law's lake house for dinner. 

Here's the thing...you think one day you'll be done moving furniture for your kids, but I'm here to tell you that's not necessarily so. Carry on. 

I had my whole house and the entire afternoon to myself. I cannot remember the last time that happened, but it's been a very long while. I was out running errands all morning, but spent the afternoon catching up on my blog and some HGTV and maybe a short nap. I feel like I should have been doing something productive, but we're all pooped here.  

Wait. I did six loads of laundry. That's not nothing. 

Saturday night hubs and I shared a frozen pizza and watched a movie we'd seen before, but not in a long long time-Begin Again with Keira Knightly and Mark Ruffalo. It's cute. 

On Sunday hubs was back at the marina for another day at the boat show, and I went to church with the kids, then out to breakfast/lunch with them right after, then a quick grocery run, then home to an iced coffee on the porch. The pollen is mostly under control now so I put the cushions out on the upper deck and sat outside all afternoon. 

This is pretty much where you'll find me every Sunday afternoon from now until Christmas. Sunday nights too...

Now, about that A-Z challenge and today's letter-X.  Always a tough one, but let's see what we can come up with...

#AtoZChallenge 2025 letter X

X is for Xerox
'to copy on a a xerographic copier' 

The first word that popped into my head was xerox. As in xerox machine. Does anyone still use this phrasing? I mean other than people who work for the company with that same name? I think now we use the word copy, but there was a time when xerox was the preferred term. These days we print, right? 

Anyway, it got me thinking about some of the things from 'my day' that were common, but are not so common anymore. 

Film developing. I think amongst professional photographers this is still a thing, but most people now are snapping pictures on their phone. Which is great, but definitely lacks the excitement of waiting two whole weeks to get your pictures back from the developer, only to discover you had your thumb on the corner of the lens. That's how you learned-ha! 

Banking. I don't know about you, but I avoid going in to the bank if I can possibly help it. When I was growing up you had to physically take your check to the bank to cash it. No such thing as an ATM or mobile deposit. No mobile phones for one thing, but I'm not going down that rabbit hole right now. 

I loved going to the local bank with my momma. It seemed like a place I'd enjoy working. It was quiet and tastefully decorated and it felt important. If you didn't get to the bank by Friday afternoon you were not going to have any cash to spend over the weekend, so banks were a happening place. 

Encyclopedias. We had a whole set on a bookshelf in our den, and we really did look things up in them.  Kind of like the Internet before the Internet. We liked just reading them too because you learned things. At the end of every year the encyclopedia publisher sent out a yearbook with highlights of events from the year that was ending. 

Sometimes you would have a school assignment requiring research and you would have to go to the library and look in a different encyclopedia to see if it added anything yours missed. I'm not sure which set we had but I want to say Encyclopedia Americana. I imagine my parents bought them from someone selling them door-to-door, which was not unusual at all in the 1970's. 

Memorizing phone numbers. Not gonna lie, I'm kind of glad I don't have to do this one anymore. 

Busy signals. Speaking of phones...this one I do sort of miss. You'd call a friend on the house phone (because that was the only phone game in town) and if they were on the phone talking to someone else you would get a busy signal. 

It was super annoying to get a busy signal just fyi. 

If you got a busy signal, you'd hang up and then immediately redial the number. If it was still busy you'd call again. And again and again and then you'd wonder who in the world they could be talking to and you might just give up and talk to them at school in person the next day. 

I don't think we appreciated being unavailable until we entered the era of being available 24/7 365 days of the year. 

Smoking sections. It sounds crazy to us now, but everywhere you went had a smoking section. Airports, airplanes! restaurants, and my high school, although I'm not sure that one was official. Seriously though, we used to get on an airplane and be seated in row 12 and the smoking section might start at row 13 so yeah. Not great if you were a non-smoker. 

In my high school C-wing was where everyone smoked. And the lavatories too. Do we still use that word? If you weren't a smoker you avoided C-wing. I know some high schools had parents sign a permission slip allowing their kid to smoke but I don't remember that being the case at my school. I've never been a smoker. 

The corner mailbox. We had one about a block and a half from our house and we loved being sent to the mailbox to mail a letter. Speaking of uncommon things...letters. Do you still write them? 

Postcards. It was fun to travel and mail a postcard back home or to a friend or your grandparents, and it was fun to be on the receiving end too. Of course there are still postcards available, but most people text a picture or message instead of bothering to buy a postcard, buy a stamp, and find a place to mail one when they're away from home. 

Communal viewing. We never watched anything alone. Most families had one television set, wall phones in the communal spaces in their homes, and no computers. We chose a program everyone could watch and then we all settled in to watch it together. Family togetherness. It was nice. 

"I remember, I remember 
The house where I was born, 
The little window where the sun
Came peeping in at morn..."

Thomas Hood, from I Remember, I Remember

Sunday, April 27, 2025

Hodgepodge Questions-Volume 600

Volume 600? That's crazy! Here are the questions to mark the occasion. Answer on your own blog, then hop back here on Wednesday (April 30th) to add your link to the Wednesday Hodgepodge. See you there! 

1. My very first edition of The Wednesday Hodgepodge was published on November 10, 2010 (linked here if you're curious). Tell us something about your life from that era. 

2. What's a song you love that relates to time in some way? 

3. May is nearly upon us. When did you last need to yell 'MAY DAY-MAY DAY!!'? 

4. How do you feel about food trucks? Is this a dining experience you enjoy?  Do you have a favorite What's something you've ordered from a food truck? 

5. We're bidding farewell to April...what are three adjectives you might use to describe the month you're leaving behind. 

6. Insert your own random thought here. 

Saturday, April 26, 2025

Day 23-WOW

I'm going with my usual Saturday list of little things I love, all relating to the letter of the day in our A-Z Blog Challenge. 

#AtoZChallenge 2025 letter W 

W is for Whimsical

'lightly fanciful'

I've had fun coming up with these lists each week, and they do feel a little whimsical in nature, so the word fits. Here in no particular order is my W list of 20-

worries unrealized
wisteria in bloom
wittiness 
a water view
Sunday worship
wisdom gained
no weeds
warmhearted people
a sense of wonder 
watermelon
willpower 
freshly washed windows
homemade blueberry waffles
the Carolina wren 
weddings 
winning a mahjong hand
a walk in the woods
a warning heeded 
sushi with a side of wasabi 
water lilies in bloom 

Friday, April 25, 2025

Video Killed The Radio Star

TGIV...we're on the home stretch in the April A-Z Blog Challenge with today's letter. 

#AtoZChallenge 2025 letter V

V is for Velocity

'the speed of something in a given direction'

Let's talk tech. I know. Not my favorite subject either, but it's here to stay and we gotta deal. 

I'm of the generation who grew up with three channels on the family television set and now here we are posing questions to a genie in a bottle and getting entire essays written in response. Technology moves at the speed of something in a given direction alright, and that direction is forward. 

I want to keep up. 

Maybe want isn't the right word. It feels more true to say I need to keep up. I'm not going to be an early adopter to whatever the next new tech thing is, but I'll get there eventually. 

The generations behind mine have grown up unafraid to use technology, they've discovered ways tech can make some of our daily tasks easier (bill pay, online shopping, and grocery delivery to name just a few), and they get excited about the next new thing on the tech horizon. An unwillingness to acknowledge this marks you as 'old'. 

Now there's nothing wrong with old (it's all of us sooner or later me included), and I realize some of the above is generalizing, but I don't want to be discounted because of this whole glob of knowledge I'm oblivious to, or that I frown upon, or that I'm constantly criticizing.  

I have grandchildren who aren't going to know a world without technology at their fingertips and I want to understand that world. I want to be able to interact with them about the things they encounter on a daily basis and if I'm not keeping up with technology I won't know what in the world they're talking about. 

There's also the social aspect to technology that I can appreciate. And sometimes hate, but I'm thinking more here of what I enjoy about online interactions. I appreciate the real life friends I'm able to keep up with online, old friends I've reconnected with, and new friends I've made in this little space right here. 

While my kids are living nearer to us now in terms of geography, that hasn't always been the case. Facetime meant we could be face to face via the screen and I think of all we would have missed without that virtual connection. 

In a completely different vein...have you noticed how much of our health care is now managed via technology? I get my lab results before my doctor's even read them, and I can track my steps, my heart rate, even my sleep via the watch on my arm. I'm sure all of this will only continue to expand in scope and capability and I want to be able to access the tools I need to navigate my own medical records and care. 

Do you play word games or Sudoku or something along those lines on your phone or computer? Work online crossword puzzles? Read books via Kindle? These are all things we used to do with pen and paper (and still do of course), but now we can enjoy them and exercise our brains while waiting for an appointment, cleaning house, or taking a walk. Too much of anything is too much, and that includes screen time, but it has its place and I want to keep up with what's new and fun.

If you don't keep up the gap just continues to grow and then feels too daunting to tackle. 

Technology doesn't mean I can't continue to make in person time count. I can still write letters to my grandchildren that are thoughtful and worth holding on to. I can read them my favorite books and teach them the board games I grew up playing. I can tell them the stories of my childhood and I can wish the world were another way. 

And I can let them take me by the hand and teach me something new.